Do you really outgrow people?
“You’ll outgrow people and it’s ok” says the Instagram self-improvement crowd.
Don’t you feel discomfort in your body when you say “I outgrew x”
I aim to improve myself constantly. Any of my friends could tell you that over the past few years I put in a lot of work to grow tremendously as a woman, working on creating a better version of myself. In that growth process, I sometimes distanced myself from friends or people I loved, assuming that this distance came from outgrowing them. I eventually came to realize how much of an ego reaction it was.
The way I came to question if we really outgrow others is rather simple. First, when I would say I outgrew someone, it would not sit right in my body. It felt like a little something was off. It was a tiny snake called entitlement.
Yea, I am doing a lot of work to become a better version of myself, but the more we do the work, the more we realize we don’t know anything. So how can we believe that we outgrow people?
Our ego mainly thinks in binaries. Good, or bad, no alternative options. “Outgrow” suggests that we are “better”. So, one question pops into my mind.
